An Unspoken Code

Experts say that children with autism lack social graces that are inborn in us.  They might speak their mind matter-of-factly even if it hurts someone's feelings and then lack the ability to sympathize.  I want to know what is the excuse if you aren't autistic.  If you confide in someone your deepest feelings and fears, what gives a friend the right to tell the exact person you're worried about everything you said.  I tend to take common sense for granted.  I take for granted that the average human being will internalize a friend's confidences that would then create a bond of closeness.  There is an unspoken code that the brain utlilizes in dealing with fellow humans.  If a person confides in you something it should not be a goal to tell another person (especially the person you're worried about) what someone has said in order to spare their feelings.  Now if bodily harm or kidnapping might result, it would be wise to tell said person of such. 

Now I have someone I love very dearly worried and insulted all because someone didn't know when to keep their mouth shut.  Since such a person might read my blog I can't go into details.  Hopefully they have the sense to know it's them.  But for the general reader, don't take social graces for granted.  And don't think just because you have common sense, the person you're confiding in does too, even if (especially if) they are a family member.  Next time I'll interview the next candidate I talk to.