Unconventional Ways to Save Money

I have been an official SAHM for 3 months.  This does not denote the luxury that staying at home might be for certain moms.  It is up to me to stretch the paycheck as far as it will go.  If I were a lawyer, I might have extra money to hand out to babysitters.  As previously discussed in my area, I would not be able to get a job that would make it worth paying daycare, the cost of gas, etc.  So I would like to share some little known facts to stretch your dollar.  When I worked for the dentist, he stressed using a paste made of baking soda and hydrogen perxiode.  It clears up any gum disease you might have, plus the baking soda whitens your teeth.  For children, this does not apply because they need toothpaste with fluriode. 

As consumers, I think we've unintentionally become helpless, depending on food manufacturers to pre-cook everything for us and package everything in separate baggies.  This applies to popcorn.  When's the last time you made your own popcorn?  Isn't popcorn just something you buy prepackaged and stick in the microwave?  I didn't become interested in making my own until the FDA came out with a preliminary study that revealed popcorn bags are treated with a grease repellant coating that breaks down into a carcinogen. I have the link here.  I saw on the today show that you can simply put kernels in a brown paper lunch bag, fold it down a few times and stick it in the microwave.  For five bags of prepackaged popcorn it's $1.87.  For the same amount of kernels Wal-mart brand was $0.87.  You'll say, "Karen, that's not going to taste good!"  Au contraire, my daughter loves it with canola oil and salt.  You can buy butter flavoring and sleep well with the thoughts that you are helping the enviornment by staying away from all that packaging and feel good you might possibly be protecting your family from a carcinogen.  Did I mention it's healthier?

My friend and I are doing a Racheal Ray clothing swap party soon.  This was a segment last week where women get together and bring clothes they can't wear for their friends to try on and swap.  I thought we'd take it a step further and bring jewelry too.  Serve snacks and wine and what could be better?  Your family budget can't argue with that. 

As I discover more, I'll share more.  Feel free to share your tips!

Raising Children 101

I feel America needs a refresher course in the raising of their children.  Since common sense has gone out the window, I'm going to attempt to fish it out of the gutter and back into everyone's mind.  It's sad to think of the many abortions that happen everyday.  It's sad to think of the women that didn't have abortions, but still don't supply the basic necessities to their children.  Perhaps there is a fantasy that exists in one's mind about how you want to raise your child, then realize it would take a lot of money you don't have to make that a reality.  All I know is, there seems to be an anger that exists in parents that is taken out on their children.  So here are some simple reminders of all that children really need.

Patience.  They need you to be patient with them.  If you are disciplining them, don't be harsh.  If they are doing something wrong, look at the way you're teaching them, don't think they are stupid for not understanding.

Time.  In order to teach children, you need some uninterrupted time with them everyday.  If this seems hard for you, set a timer.

Distraction.  Children do not need fancy toys.  They have an imagination already built in. Old pots and pans, wooden spoons, cardboard boxes, safe items that you don't use. You can make playdough with food coloring, hot water, salt, and flour.  Don't stress that your children don't have the biggest and best toys.  They would pick free time with you anyday rather than a new toy. 

Nourishment.  This needs to be said because of stories of parents that punish their children by starving them.  Never withhold food from children as a punishment.  There is something called "time out" that actually works.  You don't have to be stressed over the marketing of children tv dinners, cereal, etc.  It's very inexpensive to make simple food yourself that will taste better anyway.  Also, breastfeeding does not cost you a cent, whereas formula is very pricey.  Think about it. 

Compassion.  Children need to be taught how to be fully functioning adults. Think of them like a blank canvass.  By being gentle with them, you are painting a beatiful portrait.  If you fill their mind with your loud-mouth yelling and cover their bodies with bruises from your short-tempered hand, you have painted a canvass that sticks out like a sore thumb of what a horrible human being you are. 

Love.  Soften your heart when your child looks at you adoringly.  Soften your heart when they make a mistake and look to you for help.  You are all they have in a heartless world.  Even child victims of abuse don't want to leave their parents when they are taken away to somewhere safer.  How much more will your child appreciate you for their entire life, just from you taking a few years away from your full-time pursuits in order to teach them how to be a human being.  When you have love, the rest falls into place.

 

 

You Can Take the Girl Off the Stage...

I had the rare opportunity to visit NYC for a day in the beginning of November.  I visited sights that I never dreamed I would see in my life.  This was the third time I went to NYC in a thirty year span even though I live only 2 hours away, but this time was a blast!  Being a SAHM(stay-at-home-mom), I crave adventure every once in awhile. Everytime I travel, I don't like to look like a tourist.  It's the actress in me, I guess.  I suffered with high-heeled boots when all the tourists wore sneakers.  We used Grey Hound to get there which I think will be the last time.  We went on a freezing day, but in the city we felt warm from the buildings being so close together.  First, we spent too much time in the Virgin Music store, saw ABC Studios (which does not offer a tour to my disappointment). Then, had lunch in Planet Hollywood.  I guess when you visit very touristy restaurants, managers bring you in like a herd of cattle and expect the servers to handle being sat with 4 parties at once.  Since this was a kid-free trip, we didn't mind the wait.  Why?  Because they have wonderful costumes on display that make you forget how hungry you are.  There were the costumes from the Sound of Music, 

(yes, these same costumes right here!), Grease, Star Wars, Titanic, and my hubby's favorite:  Spock's pointy ears, and the Enterprise model from the first three Star Trek movies.  We saw where the Today show cast comes out every morning.  We took the NBC Studios Tour in Rockafeller Plaza. 

 

This was my favorite.  The first 20 minutes were hokey.  We watched a video about the humble beginnings of NBC. Then the tour guides picked someone from our tour group to be an anchorman and weatherman.  We got to sit and watch them in a pretend studio.  Then it was off to see where Conan O'Brien hosts his show.  The studio was suprisingly small and very cold.  They told us a special lens makes the studio appear wider on TV (that's where the gain 10 pounds thing comes from) and they needed to keep it cold because of the hundreds of lights over our heads.  Then we got to see where SNL films from behind huge windows.  Unfortunately, no one was practicing since there would be no show that paticular Saturday.  It didn't even look like the set, because earlier that week there was a conference held there.  It looked only a little wider than a high school stage, with three different areas.  Before we caught the bus home, Julio and I stopped at a McDonald's.  I thought the McD's in France were different. (It sold beer with your value meal.) We felt like we were in a club. (OK, so we don't get out much.) There were 3 levels, and on the third level there was a huge projection of music videos on the wall.  The music was loud and the space was low lit.  On the way home, it was an adventure unto itself.  We were in a long line at the bus terminal.  Suddenly, an employee tells us there will not be enough room on the 9:30 bus bound for Philly.  She recommends we take the 9:15 that will stop in Newark and Mt. Laurel.  Sounded good enough, since the next bus after that wouldn't be until 11:00 p.m. We boarded on a full bus and could only sit near eachother.  We see people who were behind us in line leave on the 9:30 no problem.  That bus actually leaves on time.  It felt like an eternity before we could leave.  The bus driver is yelling at a young man while they both board the bus. The man talks back and the driver throws him off.  There was a family that couldn't speak good english and they must have boarded, then unboarded 4 times.  The driver stood outside then to finish a cigarette. So once he sat down, the whole bus erupted in cheers.  That was fun.  The rest of the ride home I slept next to a stranger.  As you might know, I love anything Broadway so I got some nifty souvenirs that were Broadway related.  Hopefully, next time we'll go to actually watch a show!

The Coupon Conspiracy

Sure, I would rather write a review of the victorian novel I just finished, but here I am writing about coupons. I have mentioned in entries past, I try to use coupons from the Sunday paper to save a tiny amount off my shopping bill.  Being a miserly stay-at-home mom(SAHM) as I am, I simply have to vent on what I call a conspiracy.  Have you noticed that the amount you save on each coupon has gone down while the amount you have to buy has gone up?  Take for example Kleenex Tissues.  You can never just buy one box, on the coupon you have to buy 3 boxes just to save $0.30.  For my family, it's just not worth it.  Tide detergent rarely has coupons for just one bottle, you have to buy two.  I have to spend $35.00 just to save a buck?  I have become very interested in marketing over the past year, and view it in a new light.  What I realize is, coupon fliers are just advertising.  I look at a coupon and say, "I don't have time to cut out a coupon that will only save me $0.25."  (I also don't have time to go to stores just for a few items that will triple my coupon's savings but make me pay double for everything else.)  However, I will remember that brand when making my purchase, because of said coupon. Unless of course, the generic brand has the same quality. Maybe it's just me, but I think I'm on to them.