Sunday, September 9, 2007

Do you work better one-on-one or in a group?

I ask this question pertaining to having friends.  This question does not apply if none of your friends are friends with eachother.  Then you have it easy.  You have selected individuals in your life for their personal attributes.  You can't assume all your friends could easily be friends with one another.  But if your friends are also friends with eachother, it can get messy.  If you're all at dinner together, someone is bound to be left out.  You might discover your friends are closer to eachother than to you.  Or somehow, whisper down the lane gets started, and by the time it gets back to you there is not an ounce of truth to it.  Well for whatever reason, I work better one-on-one.  This is not being anti-social.  This is what I find most fulfilling.  This is how you develop close friendships.  If you crave bar buddies or PTA mom parties, it's going to be impossible to get to really know what's in someone's head.  I find people act differently when in groups.  There is more a subconscious pressure to go with the flow of the group in conversation and a different opinion could make it all come to a screeching halt.  So what happens when a "group" person and a "one-on-one" become friends?  A stalemate.

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